My husband uses drugs and lies about it.

by Felicia
(Tampa, Florida)

My name is Felicia and my husband uses cocaine and then will lie about it. When he gets paid, he always says "babe I'm going to hang out with boys". There are no boys.

I have found 2bags of this stuff but he said "it's not mine". But I find it in his truck and pants pocket. He has lost weight and you can't talk to him about it because he cusses at me and start arguments everyday. I'm tried of these lies and him too. He has a bad attitude, and is just nasty toward me.

I just don't know what to do. Help!!

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Addicts in denial are often very ugly and abusive.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Felicia,

From what you've described, it sounds like your husband has an addiction to cocaine. Cocaine is HIGHLY addictive and often turns a great person into a very nasty, and mean individual.

Cocaine attacks the brain and often changes us into someone who hates everyone and everything accept the drug. That's why cocaine addiction is considered a disease of the brain. Once addicted, the only thing we care about is getting more and more cocaine. Also, when we aren't high, we feel awful and we hate everyone and everything, especially if they try to stop us from using.

I recommend that you immediate join Al-anon and begin attending multiple meetings a week in your area. While at Al-anon, work the 12 step program and learn as much as you can about your husband's addiction. Also, try to find a sponsor that you can call when your husband is being abusive.

Al-anon will teach you how to love your husband but how to HATE his addiction. Ultimately, you are going to have to protect yourself while trying to get your husband to get the medical and treatment support he needs to stop his addiction. This will not be easy but there is hope and it is possible.

Good luck,


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