Spouse/Wife is a heroin addict! From Pain Pills to Heroin. 8 years now. HELP NEEDED

by Dave S.
(SLC, Utah USA)

I am living with this addiction my wife has to heroin and can't take it anymore. She will not let me be and always wants money for heroin and I refuse then she fights me so bad in front of my 14 year old son who also is sick of it all.

She has allowed my 23 year old, son who is also an addict, to move into my home and they both shoot up in my home and I have video showing her shooting up with 3 - 14 year old kids in the bedroom down the hall playing Playstation.

I can't take it anymore. If I don't give her at least $20 a day she comes to my work, calls me repeatedly and I have a phone app blocker, she won't let me sleep... there is no peace and I am so sick of it all.

She does not work, I pay all bills and now this other kid living in my house is costing me more money. My 14 year old is now failing school and he wants them both out of the house and so do I.

The wife will not get help. I tell her NO and I have video and audio of the fights she creates to get money from me. I am ready to divorce after 25 years of marriage. Can I get a Protective Order and have the wife and older son who is a user removed from our home ASAP so my 14 year old and me can live in peace?

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Police may be your best option.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Dave,

You and your son are in a terrible situation, which I agree MUST change ASAP! Your wife and your older son are addicted to heroin, which attacks they brain and turns them into different people capable of ANYTHING to get their drug.

I have two recommendations for you:

First, call the police in your community and go in and discuss the situation with them. Using heroin is against the law and serving jail time is OFTEN the wake-up call that addicts need to realize that they must agree to go into treatment

I know this must sound harsh, but heroin is a FATAL disease and both your son and your wife are in a life and death struggle for their own survival, they just don't realize it. Court ordered treatment may be their only hope to stop using and to save their lives.

Second, I would find Al-non meetings in your area and begin attending them at least three times a week to learn about addiction and to find all the resources available to you and your family.

You should start working the 12 steps and get a sponsor who has dealt with heroin addiction and can help you to understand what is your best course of action to end the insanity that your family is experiencing.

Addiction and alcoholism cause insanity in people and relationships and Al-anon has a huge amount of resources available to help you to gain control of the situation you're in.

Good Luck,


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