How do i help my dad?

by Kristen

My dad has been addicted to pills and whatever else for a long time. He was clean for a few years and then in the summer of 2014 he met a girl that i regretfully introduced him to.

I did not know her that well at all but from what i did know, she was nice. But now she's got him back into doing pills and god only knows what else. I know he is because i find the straws in his room. He used to be nice and caring but now he's mean and always strung out and always asking to borrow money from me.

I've talked to my siblings and they all agree with me. He definitely shows signs of addiction but i don't know what to do. When i try bringing it up to him he gets all defensive and starts yelling and doesn't want to talk to me about it. I just don't know what to do.

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Very difficult problem to get him into treatment.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Kristen,

You're in a very tough spot. You obviously love your dad, but don't like him when he is using. Addiction attacks our brain and turns us into a different person who only cares about using our drug of choice.

Your dad needs to detox and get into a treatment program to learn how to live without drugs. He needs to go to a doctor and honestly discuss his drug usage. The doctor can then create a treatment program for him that should help him to end his addiction.

Because your father is so uncooperative getting him to do any of this is going to be extremely challenging. But addiction is a progressive disease, so your father's situation is like to deteriorate.

I'd recommend that you and your siblings immediately begin attending Al-anon meetings twice a week to learn how to help your father to end his addiction. Working the 12 steps and finding an Al-non sponsor should help you to identify all of the resources available to you to help your dad. It will also help you to learn how to love your dad but avoid enabling his addiction in any way.

Good Luck,


Debbie

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