Marriage and getting sober

by Terra
(GA)

How do I get back the life I enjoyed before my addiction? I have a spouse who is going through the process too, I'm losing my marriage and mind. Please help me!

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I always start with the serenity prayer.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Terra,

Addiction is often very destructive for families and marriages, and when both members are suffering from addiction this is even more true. Ending your addiction has got to be your first priority, so that you can begin to decide what the next phase of your life is going to look like.

For myself, when I'm a wits end and don't know where to turn, I use the Serenity Prayer to guide me:

"God, please grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

This helps me to take every action possible to help and improve the things I can change, but also the humility to accept the things I cannot change. It also gives me the strength and the wisdom to know the difference.

We cannot change the past, nor can we change choices that other people make. But we can change the future and our own choices, so that we become part of the solution rather than part of the problem.

Please use the serenity prayer and also consider joining Al-anon, so that you can begin to get the support you need to rebuild your life.

Good Luck,

Debbie

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