My son is on heroin and I need help.

by Elizabeth
(London, UK)

My son has a history of addiction, and when he was younger, we sent him to a rehab facility in Tuscon AZ. It didn't work.

As he has grown older he has progressed to ever stronger drugs, and we have now discovered that he has been smoking heroin for at least six months. He does not live with us as he is in the States and we are in London, but we have been supporting him through college and living expenses for the past few years, as we thought that he had eventually decided to go forward with his life.

Clearly we were wrong and now we have to cut him off as we have done in the past. He shows no desire to get well, but I now need to take care of myself as I am just going through the motions of getting though the day.

Also, I have two other children and need to get stronger so that I can be a mother to them. I have had various bouts of therapy in the past, but I was wondering if attending Al-anon meetings might be an alternative or supplement to this?


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Al-anon is a good choice
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Elizabeth,

I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Heroin addiction is a terrible disease and relapse is a common outcome after treatment. Having to revisit everything you have already been through with him must be very difficult, kind of like reliving a nightmare:(

I do believe Al-anon is a good choice to support you. Find a meeting where they actually work the 12 steps and begin working the steps yourself. This will give you some insight into what your son needs to do to move past his addiction.

Also, try to find a sponsor at Al-anon who has been in a circumstance similar to yours. A sponsor can be very instructive as you work through all of the issues with your son.

Also, your son should be going to meetings himself because the 12 step program has been shown through research to be the best treatment program for heroin addiction. Often when the parent begins going to meetings the child becomes more willing to go to meetings for themselves. He can begin to go to meetings while he is still using and LEARN how to stop using if he makes that choice.

Good Luck,


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