Need help boyfriend cheated on me and uses meth and heroin?
I need all the advice I can get… Please! I’m 19 and have been with this guy for about 11 months now. I met him through drugs, I was using meth for about 6 months with friends, we would smoke together.
After experiencing something horrible with my family I quit drugs. Ive been sober since, I started dating him a little after me being sober. My only requirement from him was to not use as well.
For the first 6 months I thought I had the fairy tale love story. Everything seemed perfect. Until I started noticing different behaviors on his behalf. I had found out he was using again. Sometime passed and he swore he wasn’t using anymore.
Long story short, about a month ago I found out he has cheated on me, had never stopped using meth and to top it off was using heroin as well. My only issue really in the relationship was he had no job, no home, nothing. He’s 29.
I don’t know what to do, I care so much for him, but the more I try, the more I get absolutely no where. He doesn’t get a job. He’s homeless and sometimes sleeps in my car. He has no money so he steals. He won’t leave heroin. He leaves me and blames it all on me for not giving him enough time.
I work, have a family, and a busy life. He doesn’t make an effort, why? I’ve been nothing but good to him. I’m the only one he has and actually cares for him, why won’t he change for me if he supposedly loves me??
I don’t know what to do anymore. It’s ruining my relationship with family, causing me problems with the cops, I’m not myself anymore. I’m worried 24/7, sad, mad, frustrated, depressed, and if not I just don’t care anymore… Help!!!