Son addicted Oxycodone and Xanax?

by: Ned Wicker

Dear Denise,

First of all, call Al-Anon and get some support. They know your plight and they understand your fears and concerns.

You have to make sure his problem is his problem and not yours, so don’t let him manipulate you, suck your resources dry and ruin your life.

That’s hard for a mom. It sounds to me like the rehab didn’t work because he didn’t allow it to work. The 12 Step program is very strong and effective, but you have to work it.

You may have to do something extreme, like having him arrested for illegal possession of an opiate. He has to get out of the drug culture and a jail term, with treatment, might be just what he needs.

Talk you your lawyer, because you have to make sure the criminal justice system works in the right direction for you.

by: Anonymous

Can I call his pain management dr and explain the story to have him discharged so we can try and put him in rehab? Have called dr twice and he refuses to discharge him what should I do next?

by: CHRISTINE

I HAVE A 22 Y/O DAUGHTER WHO WE JUST LEARNED IS USING THIS LETHAL COMBINATION ILLEGALLY AGAIN. 2 YEARS AGO SHE HAD A MASSIVE SEIZURE DUE TO WITHDRAWAL AND NEARLY DIED. THIS ABUSE IS TERRIFYING AND I KNOW SHE WILL DIE. I USED TO ATTEND NAR-ANON AS WELL AS PRIVATE THERAPY THE FIRST TIME. THIS IS DESTROYING ME AGAIN AS SHE LOVES TO BLAME EVERYONE EXCEPT HERSELF FOR HER DECISIONS.

I LIVE IN FLORIDA AND WE HAVE ONE OPTION AVAILABLE IN THE MARCHMAN ACT WHERE I APPLY THROUGH THE COURT FOR HER TO BE TAKEN INTO CUSTODY AND THEREFORE DETOX AND TREATMENT. DIDN’T SHE LEARN THE FIRST TIME? IT’S AS THOUGH SHE IS ON A MISSION TO TAKE HER LIFE. I HAVE BEGGED HER TO GET HELP WHICH SHE REFUSES. WHAT DO YOU DO AS A PARENT? WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN HER FATHER IS IN LAW ENFORCEMENT?

I CURSE THE PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES AND THE DOCTORS WHO HAVE INTRODUCED THIS DRUG TO SOCIETY. IT IS A DRUG THAT SHOULD ONLY BE USED IN CONNECTION WITH NEAR DEATH PATIENTS WHO ARE SUFFERING PROFUSELY. IF YOU SAY YOUR BACK HURTS YOU HAVE DOCTORS WHO WILL PRESCRIBE 200 PILLS FOR 1 MONTH! WAKE UP PEOPLE. THIS ADDICTION IS RUINING THE LIVES OF MANY PEOPLE AND THEIR FAMILY TOO!

by: Ned Wicker

There is no reasoning with addiction, no logical strain of thought, no moral judgment. Your daughter has a brain disease which has robbed her of all of that and the ability to make proper choices. All she can think of is using.

You, unfortunately, are in the way and she sees you as an enemy, a non-supportive and unloving force in her life. Of course, she blames you for everything, because to do otherwise would mean that she would have to take responsibility for her actions and be accountable. She wants no part of that. It is always the fault of someone else.

I see the potential for law enforcement to be your good friend here. Police officers see this every day and the guys I know on the job are understanding people. If you can get your daughter off the streets and into a good rehab program (court ordered), she will have an opportunity to turn her life around. Out on the street, she will get into nothing but trouble.

You can talk to them and get their advice. I have friends who are county sheriffs and they are interested in saving lives.

Do not assume ever that your daughter will agree with anything you do. She is going to fight you. She may even tell you she hates you. Don’t listen. Don’t give in. She must go to treatment, period.