Drug Abuse Questions

Drug Abuse Questions:

What Should I Do? How do I know?

You are faced with a situation and you don’t know what to do. It’s common with people who are dealing with drug abuse and/or Drug Abuse questions for the first time, or even those who have dealt with them for years but never learned about what they can or should do in a given situation.

Drug Abuse Questions

This section of the site is a work in progress. We have begun with 20 or so questions and will add to those questions as we receive them, or read about them on other sites. To make navigation a little easier, we have tried to divide questions up into major topic areas, i.e. what to do if you are a spouse or a parent or if you are having troubles. Please also let us know any Drug Abuse questions you have by using the "Contact Us" button on the left.

I. Personal Concerns

Am I abusing drugs?

Am I addicted?

I am on Step 3 and don’t know what to do.

My addiction causes me to be depressed and I’m thinking of suicide.

I tried 12-Step. It didn’t work.

What should I do if I need treatment, but I don’t have insurance or any money?

II. Family: Spouse/Partner

How do I talk to them to get them to stop?

My spouse says they are going to quit but they don’t?

I’m divorced and my spouse has the children half time. I believe my spouse is using drugs?

I kicked my spouse out of the house a year ago, but he/she says they are not using anymore. Should I take them back?

My spouse is drinking all the time, but I don’t know if he/she is an alcoholic?

III. Family: Child

How do I talk to my teen?

I just found out my son/daughter is taking drugs.

I believe my son/daughter is taking my prescription medication.

IV. Recovery/Cycle of Addiction

What is recovery?

What is the cycle of addiction and how does it relate to recovery?

How do I break the cycle of addiction in my life?

Don’t addicts have to want to be treated?

Isn’t a drug addict a person with weak character?

V. Intervention/Support/Treatment

What is Intervention?

What happens when you call a treatment center about an intervention?

What happens during an intervention?

What is Alanon and how do I get connected?

Is Alcoholics Anonymous just for people who believe in God?

How do I find an AA meeting?

Why should I go to a support group meeting?

VI. General Questions

Isn't Drug Abuse self-inflicted?

Why so many treatment options for Drug Abuse?

VII. Prevention

I am in recovery, but I am afraid of using again?

What Can Parents Do To Prevent Drug Abuse in Their Children?

What can I do to prevent drug abuse and addiction?

Bf is oxy addict. So alone and need help.

by Jan
(Los Cabos, Mexico)

My bf is banging oxy and I don't know what to do. I don't do drugs and don't know how I got in this place except that I love him.

He claims he loves me but does he? I can't talk to anyone as I am to ashamed for people to know that I am in this place or for them to judge me or him. Does anyone get how this feels?

Help me please I feel I am lost. I know what to say to others but don't know how to act. Help me please.

Take A Stand
by: Ned Wicker

Dear Jan,

You are involved in a one-way relationship. Right now, you are worried about his drug use, but he is not. You are thinking about the future of your relationship, but he is not. You say that you love him and you are concerned that he may not love you, but he thinks about doing his drug of choice. You are going nowhere.

You need to understand that you want a man, not a substance use disorder. You want a relationship, not a constant worry about what he is doing. You want him to love you and respect you. As it is, he has no choice but to do his drugs.

As the disease progresses, nothing else matters to the addict but getting high. There is no room in his life for you right now and if he does not get treatment, he will never love you and never treat you with kindness and gentleness. He needs to decide what he wants for his life.

Does he want to have a loving relationship with you, or does he want to use drugs? If you stay with him and allow him to use drugs, he will walk all over you and you will never have the kind of life you want.

You need to make a choice—it’s either you or the drugs. Not both. You need to communicate that in the clearest possible terms to him, so there is no mistake. You must set the boundaries of your relationship and have respect for yourself.

I understand that you love him, but you love the man you knew BEFORE he became obsessed with oxy. You want that man back, not the man you have. As it stands, you have nothing.

You must form a plan to get him into treatment and stop the drug use. As for being ashamed, understand that addiction is a disease and needs treatment. It’s not about you, but about him getting treatment.

If he is willing to do that, you may want to keep trying. If he is not willing, you have no future and your best move is to walk away from the relationship before you get hurt.

If you have more Drug Abuse Questions please contact us and we will try to answer them!

and Finally Remember:

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened."
- Matthew 7:7-8

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